Huh.
Maybe making friends is the courtship ritual?
The correct pattern of words and earnesty. Hasbio programming to reinforce friendliness.
Females just often lack the defense mechanisms of being larger or to make it difficult to be forcibly mated with in order to have much in the way if selection.
Perhaps the perfect Fluffy would have strong enough vaginal muscles to prevent forced entry, or be far less susceptible to Sowwy Hoofsies than males are so males amways back down in fights.
This article is somewhat relevant. I saved it until I had an excuse to post it.