I have a lot of disagreements in the topic, but I shall respond to this one because it sort of coalesces a lot of my disagreements with the other camp.
Not all artists and writers depict them as excessively shitting. I sure as hell don’t have that in my headcanon. Part of my love of the wird of hugboxers and cute fluffy artists like Waggytail, Coalheart and @SqueakyFriend 's work is that fluffies don’t excessively defecate in suck work. And I don’t expect the fluffies from the artists I enjoy to exhibit that. I feel its an overused and in some cases over-expected trope, bordering on a fetish.
I tend to look at fluffspeak the way West African Pidgin and Singlish works. I treat fluffspeak as a language because, and despite the approach that its supposed to be a babyish form of talk, people have ascribed unique rules to it on the booru and even up to now, a reason why Feyascia wrote a primer on it. In that sense, fluffspeak seems more interesting to me as a unique language, even though its a derivative of English. As it is, I have a series of stories that considers fluffspeak as a language.
Consider the following dialogue in West African Pidgin. How much of the dialogue is clear, and how much of it doesn’t make sense?
I also tend to imagine fluffies having different voices and not all sounding the same. Its like how different children would have different voices.
I guess this one is a preference thing. One may find it awful, I find it endearing.
Different people have approached it differently. Some people make the safe room a large thing, others have sufficed with giving the fluffy its own bed and treating it as like any other pet. Maybe I’m not too attached to the idea of fluffies being an overly expensive pets because some have depicted them being raised like a cat or dog and without the depiction of a safe room.
Do I think its potentially expensive? Of course, and I’ve even written a story considering it. But ultimately the choice is down to the individual consumer. @Foxhoarder did a story about an owner making a fluffy happy with a limtied buedget, as did @Carpdime did a story about making a fluffy happy with DIY toys. And besides, if fluffies were as mentally stunted as people make them out to be, I think making them happy wouldn;t be that expensive, actually.
Ultimately, it all boils down to one owns biases, preferences, and of course, Headcanon!
Maybe you should look into the content that doesn’t feature them excessively shittin’. Just saiyan’.
To reflect back to my earlier point, just because it so common in abuse works and headcanon doesn’t mean it applies to “all” fluffies by different artists and writers.